Consultations

Prepare for our educational consultations to create a deathcare plan by downloading the Pre-consult Questionnaire and perusing the questions.  You do not have to fill anything out.  This form is designed to spark thoughts and help you to prepare for what we will discuss at the consult.

When should I schedule an Educational Consultation?

It is optimal if we can work with families ahead of crisis, when people are able to think clearly about what would be meaningful and healing to them at the time of the death transition.  Families often wait until their loved-one has declined to a point of needing considerable care and when emotions are strained.  Sometime, the person who is facing their death also participates in the educational consultation.  It is an opportunity to talk openly and lovingly about what lies ahead.

Who should attend?

Anyone who is going to play a key role at death.  This may be family members, but may also be friends who can be point people at death.  Planning family-led death care is much like planning a birth that happens at home.  The more support and the better prepared the team, the more likely that things will unfold well.

What is the next step?

We sometimes meet with a family many months or even years before death.  We encourage families to stay connected with us.  We may check in with families we do not hear from for a while, as a matter of courtesy. It is good for us to remain relatively apprised of how things are going for a family.  We will also check in to make sure that a family is able to proceed with preparations and the action items that arise out of the educational consultation meeting. Sometimes families request follow up meetings to revisit their planning process.  When death occurs, our goal is to support families to achieve maximal participation in the care of their loved-one at death. We seek to minimize our role, if at all possible.